Why you should adopt the "I don't care" life

We live in a world where we're constantly bombarded with opinions and unsolicited advices about what we should care about, how we should look, what and what success should mean, it's no wonder many of us feel perpetually stressed out and unfulfilled. It is like we are constantly look for a way out in a maze that has no opening. We chase after elusive goals, compare ourselves to others, and end up feeling like we're never quite good enough. Part of this is not the individual's fault, it is as a result of the environment they grew up.

Let's shift from the genesis this may emanate and look at what should be done. What if I told you that there's another way? Something that I have been personally trying to learn about. What if I told you that embracing the "I don't care" life could actually lead you to greater happiness and contentment? Sounds counterintuitive, right? Bear with me, and let's explore why letting go of the need to please everyone else might just be the key to finding true joy.

Firstly, let's clarify what I mean by the "I don't care" life. I am not implying that you live a reckless and unaccountable life, far from that. It's not about being apathetic or indifferent to everything around us, that would be inhuman because we have feeling and emotions which matter a lot in this journey of life. It's about consciously choosing where to direct our energy and attention, and being unapologetically true to ourselves in the process. It is about not making a lot of things about us. I may be saying this so easily but I also struggle about that, remember I said it in the beginning of this article. An "I don't care life" has been proven, not scientifically or through study, but by observation and testimonies from close friends.

We can all attest to it that one of the biggest sources of unhappiness for many people is the constant need for external validation. "what will they think of me?" is the usual question. We seek approval from friends, family, colleagues, and even strangers on social media, basing our self-worth and value on their opinions of us. But here's what I have concluded on: there is no way on this earth that you will ever be able to please everyone, no matter how hard you try. And that's okay. Take you for instance, do you know that there people trying to please you but they can not because it is not just possible, others will be able to but so long as you are just not pleased with someone, there is nothing they can do about it and it is okay.

Living the "I don't care" life means letting go of the need for validation from others. It means recognizing that your worth isn't determined by the number of likes on your latest Instagram post or the approval of your peers. Instead, it comes from within—from being authentically yourself and embracing your unique quirks and imperfections. It starts with valuing yourself no matter what, and seeing yourself as worth everything good.

Ignoring what people say about you is a difficult task that many of us battle with ,yet when you stop worrying about what other people think and start prioritizing your own happiness and well-being, amazing things happen. You become less stressed, more confident, and more resilient in the face of adversity. You start making decisions based on what feels right for you, rather than trying to live up to other people's expectations. The truth is, a lot of the things people do are for personal gains and so what is stopping you form putting yourself first? And guess what? It is liberating when you are yourself living in your own world.

As I said, embracing the "I don't care" life isn't always easy. It requires courage, self-awareness, an affirmative attitude and a willingness to challenge societal norms. It means letting go of the fear of judgment and learning to trust yourself and your instincts. But the rewards are more than worth it.

So how can you start living the "I don't care" life today? Begin by practicing self-love and self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and remember that you are deserving of happiness just as you are. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and support you for who you are, rather than trying to change you.

Next, learn to let go of perfectionism and embrace the beauty of imperfection. Stop striving for an unattainable ideal and instead celebrate your uniqueness. Take risks, make mistakes, and learn from them. Life is messy and unpredictable, but it's also incredibly beautiful when we learn to embrace its imperfections.

Finally, focus on what truly matters to you and let go of the rest. Stop comparing yourself to others and chasing after external markers of success. Instead, define success on your own terms and pursue your passions with gusto. Whether that means traveling the world, starting your own business, or simply spending more time with loved ones, prioritize the things that bring you joy and fulfillment.

Living the "I don't care" life isn't about being selfish or irresponsible. It's about reclaiming your power and living life on your own terms. It's about embracing your true self and finding happiness in the here and now, rather than constantly striving for some elusive future goal. So go ahead, dare to be yourself, and watch as the world opens up before you in all its glorious possibility.

Be courageous enough to care less about things that you cannot control.