Staying Close To Yourself: Keeping To Self-worth

Our worth should not be determined by the people we relate with, it is an internal perception of ourselves. What then is Self-worth?

Staying Close To Yourself: Keeping To Self-worth
Dorcas

Let's do some self-worth talk here guys!

When you hear of self-worth, what pops up in your head? Respect, love, and value will be part of the verbs. We often feel that when respect is not served, then our worth is undervalued. It is observed that people with high levels of self-worth have confidence in themselves, are more resilient, and are able to set healthy boundaries for the protection of their peace and well-being.

Our worth should not be determined by the people we relate with, it is an internal perception of ourselves. What then is Self-worth?

Self-worth is the value that an individual places on themselves. It is very important for living a satisfying life as it allows a person to recognise their value and live a fulfilling life.  On the other hand, it is observed that people with low self-worth may struggle with feelings of insecurity, self-doubt, and self-criticism. They may engage in self-sabotaging behaviors, have difficulty making decisions, and struggle to assert themselves.


“Strong people have a strong sense of self-worth and self-awareness; they don’t need the approval of others.”
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

self-worth is therefore, knowing your value, loving yourself, being aware of the impact of your environment, and knowing what is good or bad for you.

This article will explore the importance of self-worth and how to cultivate them.

Importance of knowing your worth

Confidence

People who have come to realise their worth have high confidence in themselves. They believe in whatever comes their way are positive enough to face anything that is thrown at them. there is no human who does not have flaws or shortcomings. while people with positive self-worth know that they cannot always control everything or that they are not perfect, they believe that they can always work on themselves to improve their shortcomings. They do not let those flaws define them.  

Relationships

Our self-worth affects how effective our relationship with others can be. If you feel like you are not valued in a certain circle you find yourself. You are likely to question your worth. If an individual feels that he is constantly disrespected or undervalued for whatever reason, they can either blame themselves for it (low self-worth people) or they can talk to themselves and say they don't deserve what is being done to them and hence set boundaries to protect themselves.  

It is more rewarding to have positive self-worth so that you know when to take responsibility for something and also know when to identify that you don't deserve a certain treatment.  

For positive self-talk

Reasons why most people do not venture into things they desire and are passionate about is because they feel like they do not deserve to be there or they negatively self-talk. Having a negative self-worth will have you doubting your value, your abilities, and when good opportunities come your way, you will run away from them.

Because you feel that you are unworthy of things, you are prone to depression, you will go out of your way to please others and you will find yourself not able to stand up for yourself in most situations.

“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”
Iyanla Vanzant

Nurturing and improving self-worth the healthy way

know yourself

Get to understand yourself and the things that make you feel okay with yourself. Make sure they don't turn into arrogance, there is always a polite way to do things. If you feel like you are not getting the treatment you want, explain and if that is not respected, do what will make you feel appreciated. We can all always make sacrifices but not to the point that we feel not worthwhile.

Respect others' boundaries

Do what you want to be done to you, as the saying goes. Yes, that also applies here. You must take the other person into account if you want your boundaries respected. It shouldn't always be a one-sided thing. It's not always the other side that's at blame, when people realise that you have them at heart and you respect their boundaries, they will be compelled to do the same.

Respect yourself

People frequently perceive you how you perceive yourself. People will perceive you as unworthy if you believe so; similarly, if you don't respect yourself, they will assist you in doing so. Respect yourself by:

  • Practicing self-care
  • being true to yourself
  • setting boundaries
  • loving yourself

Focus on your mental growth

Focusing on your mental growth can help you nurture your self-worth. Mental growth is an ongoing process that requires effort and practice. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem, and be patient and kind to yourself as you work towards your goals. Focusing on your mental growth can lead to a more fulfilling life, improved relationships, and greater self-awareness.

Positive self-worth has a way of affecting our relationships with our friends and family, it can affect our health, our work, our lifespan, and our success. Cultivate a better way of viewing yourself, love your flaws, and elevate yourself, these are the first steps to attracting love, respect, and value from others. It starts with you!!

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